This is so fascinating. The way meaning and perception is framed is something that is often overlooked. we accept things as they are instead of questioning the framework that makes them appear that way.
It's taken my until now, at 31, to choose to behold myself exactly how I want. I am no longer adhering to any external framework. I am the maker of meaning. I am the beholder and the beheld. It's freeing!
It takes so much courage to do this. It's courage that I'm just learning about and stepping into. I am ambitious, wanting to pursue different things all at once while knowing that I may not be able to achieve world class mastery in all of them and making peace with that.
Thanks for this, Nix. But can you throw some light on this statement of yours:
"To pry yourself from an old frame is not bloodless! Especially when there are ties to history, identity, culture, family. Strong interpersonal ideas persist"
> "To pry yourself from an old frame is not bloodless!"
Whenever there is already blood is the best time to reframe, to be reborn from the ashes. I wrote about this recently after going through something traumatic, it took immense strength to use the opportunity to assess the frame I'd built, and build anew using all the past experiences, good and bad.
> "The pain to pay for upheaval feels unbearably high while the brain fights against the discomfort of the unknown. The limbic system distorts the perception of time, deceiving you into believing the battle will never end, but it does. Before long the gaping hole in you heals into a barely noticeable scar. Internally, who you are now bears little resemblance to who you were. Everything you are, you chose."
This is so fascinating. The way meaning and perception is framed is something that is often overlooked. we accept things as they are instead of questioning the framework that makes them appear that way.
It's taken my until now, at 31, to choose to behold myself exactly how I want. I am no longer adhering to any external framework. I am the maker of meaning. I am the beholder and the beheld. It's freeing!
It takes so much courage to do this. It's courage that I'm just learning about and stepping into. I am ambitious, wanting to pursue different things all at once while knowing that I may not be able to achieve world class mastery in all of them and making peace with that.
Thank you so much for writing this. I’m reading it at such a perfect moment, when I need to design the frame for my life. Thank you
must your timing always be this impeccable
<3
Thanks for this, Nix. But can you throw some light on this statement of yours:
"To pry yourself from an old frame is not bloodless! Especially when there are ties to history, identity, culture, family. Strong interpersonal ideas persist"
> "To pry yourself from an old frame is not bloodless!"
Whenever there is already blood is the best time to reframe, to be reborn from the ashes. I wrote about this recently after going through something traumatic, it took immense strength to use the opportunity to assess the frame I'd built, and build anew using all the past experiences, good and bad.
> "The pain to pay for upheaval feels unbearably high while the brain fights against the discomfort of the unknown. The limbic system distorts the perception of time, deceiving you into believing the battle will never end, but it does. Before long the gaping hole in you heals into a barely noticeable scar. Internally, who you are now bears little resemblance to who you were. Everything you are, you chose."