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Tokyo, The Catalyst's avatar

"being liked by everyone isn't possible without some contortion or diminishing of self" is so beautifully written. a lot of my childhood was inadvertently lost because i tried to conform in a bubble that didn't fit me. i thought that was the only way to feel better about myself, to fit in. it was only when i broke off from my first few bubbles of friends that i realized that i didn't have to adapt to them to truly find myself. if i am freely me, the right people will come.

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"You don’t have to pretzel yourself into an image or a set of traits or squeeze into something uncomfortable to be valuable." this spoke to me the most. i've been struggling recently with friendships who expect me to act like a certain type of friend but i just can't right now.

this blog helped me a lot to rethink and does anybody have advice on how to .. part ways with a friendship that's no longer working..? i really don't want to keep this cycle of pressuring myself to be the friend that they expect me to be and be disappointed w myself when i can't.

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